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How To Find The Courage To Move Across The Country

  • Kara
  • July 1, 2016
tips for moving across the country

Close to two years ago, Robin and I were watching the sunset on our Minneapolis patio and talking about what’s next. I had just graduated college and I knew I didn’t want to stay in Minneapolis, or even the midwest. On this patio the idea to move to San Francisco was born. We would stay until the end of September to finish out my agency internship and then that October, we would go. 

Finding the courage to move out of your comfort zone and into a new chapter of your life isn’t easy. The idea of moving to California was totally sugar coated as we sipped beers on our patio. We had each other, some savings and a rough plan. How hard could it be? (Oh, to be young and naive) I won’t sugar coat it – moving from Minneapolis to San Francisco was hands down the hardest, most challenging thing I have ever done in my life. The move tested my mental strength, my ability to budget and to handle stress. But, the end result is everything I wanted. I now have a great apartment, a steady routine (filled with adventures!) and a great group of friends. So, how do you move across the country like I did? Read on!  Twin Peaks, San Francisco

How to find courage to move across the country

Every night in bed before moving, take a few minutes to envision living in your new city. Think about what your new daily routine will be, picture what life there will look like. And feel like. And most importantly, keep reminding yourself why you want to go. When things get hard, remember your reasons. 

Pick a date to leave, and then tell everyone and everybody you know that you are leaving on that date. We were already dead set on peacing out at the end of September, but I noticed that each time someone asked me when I was leaving, saying that end date made me more confident. Yes, we are leaving Minneapolis on September 30th. We are going to San Francisco. We are doing this. We can do this. Plus, it’ll help you stick to your goals. You can’t easily back out when you told everyone you know that you’re doing it, right?

Start job hunting early. I’ll be honest and tell you that (unless you are being headhunted or have been in your industry for years) it’ll be hard to score an interview without actually living in the city. That being said, you’ll feel better getting to know what’s out there and what the salary options are, so when you arrive in your city, you’ll have a head start.

Same thing goes with apartment/house hunting! Do you research on the neighborhoods. Google online. Search Instagram. Ask friends! San Francisco is only 7×7 miles, but is so diverse in neighborhoods. We knew coming into our hunt which areas we probably like best, so it was a little less daunting when it came to looking for a place. 

Figure out how you want to physically move there, and then plan it out! We wanted to spend a week driving across the country and visit sites we’ve never been too. Focusing on that fun part helped keep the general moving jitters at bay. 

Finally, ask for help! Let your friends and family know you want to move and that need support, whether emotionally or financially. Even if you are moving alone, you don’t have to be alone in this process! 

After You Arrive

Once you find a place, a job and have settled in, I recommend getting your family and friends to come visit every couple of months for the first year or so. This really helped us not feel so alone on the West Coast, and was also a great excuse to explore San Francisco.

 

I hope this helps you feel encouraged to move to that city of your dreams. It probably won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. I promise. Leave a comment below if you have any questions or more tips to share! I’m happy to answer! 

Kara

I'm the founder of Whimsy Soul (this blog you're reading!) I'm a type 3 enneagram cat lady who lives in San Francisco and loves to find everyday magic to share with others. You can probably find me hunting down hot springs with girlfriends, kayaking, cooking with my husband, petting strangers' dogs or watching like, all the things on Netflix. Follow me on Instagram for even more inspiration!

10 comments
  1. Georgiana says:
    September 7, 2016 at 7:57 pm

    It’s not easy to make friends in a new city so we used meetup. Found an awesome group of people in our age range and we’re still good friends after 3+ years. It’s really important to go out and be active….volunteer if you have time, do the touristy things, check out the closest pub, etc.

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  2. Haley Lynch says:
    January 3, 2017 at 12:16 pm

    I am from Minneapolis and I am looking to move to San Francisco in 2017. Just curious if you have any more tips or ticks for another Midwest lady!

    I would appreciate any help!

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  3. Kara says:
    January 6, 2017 at 4:08 pm

    Hi Haley — you can always email me at hello(at)whimsysoul.com and I can send some info over!

    Cheers
    Kara

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  4. Angie says:
    February 19, 2017 at 3:32 pm

    Great Blog post. Just a few questions- did you end up moving without a job? How many months of expenses did you have saved before you took the leap? Did you drive or fly? If you flew, did you ship your car?

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    1. Kara says:
      February 22, 2017 at 8:41 pm

      Hi Angie!

      Both of us didn’t have jobs – we moved a few months after graduating college. We stayed with my fiance’s Aunt in the Bay Area for a couple of months after moving as we hunted for apartments (which helped!) I had over $12k saved up just for the move, and that went so quickly! I wish I had saved more. We both had cars and were planning on driving both out – but mine broke down beyond repair right before our move, so we shipped a lot of boxes and drove just the one car out! Let me know if you have more questions!

      Kara

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  5. Neiss says:
    April 21, 2017 at 9:39 am

    When you do find the courage to move across the country you should consider using furnishr.com. They helped me design my new home and they delivered and set everything up! check them out!!

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  6. ECS Lifestyle Blog says:
    May 12, 2019 at 7:35 pm

    Wow I really loved this! You have everything I need! I used to just visit your blog for travel but I’ve been researching moving to a new city then you popped up on Pinterest. This made me feel a million times better, thanks for sharing!

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    1. Kara says:
      May 15, 2019 at 12:25 pm

      ahh happy to hear that! It’s a hard thing to do for sure, but that courage leads to better things! Goodluck on your move.

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  7. Emily says:
    February 22, 2020 at 9:31 pm

    Ahh this is exactly what I needed! Moving across country beginning of September this year (so I have my date ish). I am lucky enough to have a room at a friend’s place until I get sorted, keeping an eye on jobs but not applying for anything until I move (trying to remove that stress) and thankfully Dad is helping store some of my big items that I can’t shift in my car until I’ve found a place and can afford to ship it over.

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  8. dee says:
    July 18, 2022 at 3:11 am

    This is great! My situation is somewhat different. Single empty nester…I’ve lived in MN my whole life and every single winter gets harder. I’ve always wanted to move to Colorado and am in a road trip going there right now! I fear being away from my (grown) kids and away from my amazing friends, as I’d be doing this alone. I do have a handful of friends in Colorado but what comforts me is knowing if/when I do finally pull the trigger, I can always move back after a year or two if I end up hating it! Luckily I work remotely so the job issue doesn’t matter. 😉

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